Adopting Abused Kids With Anxiety And Depression Issues


Adoptive parents nowadays have less knowledge when it comes to the needs of their adopted child with anxiety or depression. Since they haven’t known the child that long, most of the time, they fail to fulfill the basic needs of the adopted child. The agency or charity that have bequeathed the child to the adoptive parents have this notion that their job is already done. Once the child has a home, their obligation ends there. These agencies are unaware of the complaints and the issues that adoptive parents are forced to face because of difficulties with the child, adjustments and so many more. The agency neglected that support to get the foster parent, and the adopted child get acquainted with each other.

Pearce aired to the government to encourage the inter-racial adoptions. But at the same time cutting social services budgets and other vital support services. And that the focus will be on the launching of a root-and-branch adoption system reform. All these should be made to get better trained social workers and realign the budget to other needs that will uplift the child’s welfare.


Nature Of Children In Adoption Agencies

A considerable percentage of children in the adoption agencies have been abused, and some were even horribly neglected. And then the dilemma comes in once the child gets settled in with his new parents. In the end, the agency receives a complaint from the clients, and they were forced to get involved with the bridging of the gap between the adoptive parents and the child. The parents needed support in terms of understanding the child better and the abuse they have been into. With this, there is indeed a need for the agency to have that awareness talk to educate the adoptive parents on the possible problems with the child.

“Enlightened adoption agencies now keep all records on file of the children put up for adoption and make those records readily available when and if the adopted person wants to learn of their background. They will even arrange meetings with the birth parents,” said Allan N. Schwartz, PhD.

Abuse comes in many forms. It may be physical, sexual, emotional and even substances. And each indicator has a different approach and strategies just to put a solution on the matter. Thus, there is indeed a need for that awareness drive. And of hiring a competent social worker to help the child get over the abuse that he or she might have been into.

“Prevention is important because (1) maltreatment can be avoided and (2) abuse and neglect can lead to negative consequences such as depression, developmental delays (e.g., speech difficulties), and risk of developing substance abuse during adulthood,” said Erlanger A. Turner, PhD.


Many people have expressed their concerns about this matter. But all those were opinions and sympathy. Financial support is needed to get the wheels going and get the change that is required to help the child. This financial support can send social workers to training so that they become effective in their jobs. And that even before the children found their adoptive parents, they would get help with their problems through a well-trained social worker.  With this, the child would leave the adoption agency either totally cured or have already improved compared to their previous condition.

Indeed, studies have shown that over the years, problems with regards to the child have risen and continues to soar. Many families were traumatized, experienced significant loss and even death because of this condition, and this problem becomes a well-known fact in the community. As a result, less and fewer parents come forward to help out these kids. A considerable percentage of the parents who chose to adopt a child stated that their situation at home could be considered at a critical level.

“Children who have had bad experiences, particularly in care, are on high alert and don’t believe anything anyone tells them because they don’t trust them,” said Professor Peter Fonagy, chief executive of the Anna Freud Centre in London.


But not all stories are like that. There are also some that went well. Like getting over the trauma or abuse, the child has been into, and the child was able to connect with the adoptive parents already. But then again, the relationship might have been developed between the adoptive parents and the child, but no one can tell if the child is already that over with what he had experienced before. No one can explain the mechanisms of the brain. It may have healed at a certain, but there will also be a time that it would surface and possibly become a problem again. In other words, no one can predict the behavior of the child; that is why adoptive parents need the support they can get from the foster agency.

Other than these issues, there is also this public perception about adoption that seems to stain the process of adoption. Selection of adoptive parents can be found unrealistic and even unreasonable. Usually, agencies would go for parents who seem to be perfect or to have it all. Ruling out those who want to adopt but they belong to the middle class or already too old and so many more.

By nature, the adoptive parents would not ask for help from the adoption agencies regarding their problems. But still, the agencies should consider these issues to provide the best service there is and be a safety net in case things don’t go well with the adoptive parents.